Dear Consulting Chick, Is "Girl Code" Dead? Or Did My Best Friend Just Find a Loophole?

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The Response

Dear Blindsided,

Let me save you some time: You aren't crazy, and she isn't a "best" friend.

Here is the hard truth about adult friendships: "Technically" is the word people use when they know they are morally wrong but don't want to accept the guilt.

If you have to act like a lawyer to justify dating your best friend’s ex-fling, you have already lost the argument. Girl Code isn’t a legal contract; it’s about empathy. She had a front-row seat to the wreckage this guy caused, and then she decided she wanted a slice of that wreckage. That is not a misunderstanding. That is a character flaw.

My Verdict:

The guy is messy; let him go. The friend showed you who she is; believe her. You don’t need to burn the friendship to the ground if you don’t want the drama, but you definitely need to demote her. She is no longer in the Inner Circle.

Take my advice: Don't argue the "technicalities" with her. You won't win, because she isn't operating on logic—she's operating on selfishness. Walk away with your dignity.