She’s Dry (And I’m Not Talking About Her Attitude) Why the Vagina Gets Dry During Menopause
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Between us? We’re calling this F & I — Facts and Intimacy. 😉
Because nobody explained this part properly.
First Things First: It’s Not You. It’s Estrogen.
When you move through perimenopause → menopause → post menopause, estrogen starts clocking out early like it’s got PTO to burn.
Estrogen is the hormone that:
Keeps vaginal tissue thick and elastic
Maintains natural lubrication
Supports healthy blood flow
Keeps the vaginal pH balanced
When estrogen drops, the vagina can become:
Thinner
Less elastic
Less lubricated
More sensitive
That dryness? It’s biological. Not personal. Not a failure. Not a “you’re not attracted anymore” situation.
It’s chemistry.
And chemistry can be managed.
What It Actually Feels Like (Let’s Be Honest)
For some women:
Mild dryness
Slight discomfort
For others:
Burning
Itching
Pain during intimacy
Micro-tears
Increased UTIs
Yes. We’re grown enough to say it.
Menopause can make the vagina feel like it switched from “moisturizing lotion” to “matte finish.”
And nobody warned us.
What’s Happening Medically
This condition has a name: Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause (GSM).
GSM includes:
Vaginal dryness
Pain with intimacy
Urinary urgency
Recurrent UTIs
Vaginal thinning (atrophy)
It’s extremely common.
Over 50% of menopausal women experience vaginal dryness.
Yet somehow… we whisper about it like it’s scandalous.
It’s not scandalous. It’s hormonal.
Why It Matters (Beyond the Bedroom)
This isn’t just about sex.
Vaginal health affects:
Comfort when walking
Comfort sitting
Bladder health
Overall confidence
Relationship dynamics
And let’s be real — when intimacy hurts, it affects more than the body.
And we don’t do silent suffering over here.
So What Do We Do About It?
Here are real options:
1. Over-the-Counter Lubricants
Water-based or silicone-based lubricants help immediately during intimacy.
Pro tip: Avoid heavily fragranced products. Your vagina is not a candle.
2. Vaginal Moisturizers
Different from lubricants. These are used regularly (2–3 times per week) to maintain moisture long-term.
3. Vaginal Estrogen (Prescription)
Low-dose vaginal estrogen (cream, tablet, or ring) can:
Restore tissue thickness
Improve lubrication
Reduce discomfort
And because it’s localized, it has minimal systemic absorption.
Talk to your provider.
4. Pelvic Floor Therapy
Blood flow improves lubrication. Movement helps everything.
5. Stay Sexually Active (Yes, Really)
Increased blood flow supports vaginal tissue health. Use it or lose it applies here too.
I said what I said.
Let’s Normalize the Conversation
Dryness is not:
A moral issue
A relationship failure
A sign you’re “old”
Something to be embarrassed about
It’s a hormone shift.
And we don’t let hormones bully us.
We adjust. We adapt. We upgrade.
Final Word (Between Us)
If you’ve been quietly thinking:
“Why does this feel different?” “Why does this hurt now?” “Why didn’t anyone tell me this part?”
You’re not crazy.
You’re menopausal.
And now you’re informed.
That’s the F in F & I.
And the I? We protect intimacy — with information.
If this made you laugh, nod, or side-eye your own biology…Drop a comment.
Let’s keep it grown, funny, and medically accurate. 💛
A Real Solution for Real Dryness 💧
If you’re thinking, “Okay, estrogen’s dropping — but what can actually help?”, I’ve got something to show you.
I recently got approved as a Joylux partner, a brand focused on vaginal wellness during menopause. They offer tools and products designed to help with dryness, discomfort, and tissue health — which are exactly the things we’ve been talking about.
👉 Check out the products that help with vaginal dryness here: https://joylux.pxf.io/qWngkb (this link leads to Joylux’s dryness collection)
This isn’t just about intimacy — it’s about overall comfort and confidence in your body. If dryness is showing up in your life, it’s worth exploring options that address it at the source.
How to Talk to Your Provider About This
If you’re interested in something like Joylux but want medical guidance first, here’s a script you can use with your clinician:
“I’m experiencing vaginal dryness and discomfort during menopause. I’ve read about non-hormonal devices and tools like those from Joylux. Can we discuss whether something like that might be appropriate for me?”
Thank me later, The Consulting Chick
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