How to Become the Woman Who "Just Gets Everything" (Spoiler: It’s Not Luck)

The Consulting Chick
Dec 9, 2025
3 min read

We all know her.

She gets the promotion she wasn’t quite qualified for. She stumbles into an incredible relationship right after a breakup. She effortlessly books the dream trip, finds the vintage designer bag for cheap, and always seems to be in the right place at the right time.

It’s annoying, isn’t it?

It’s easy to look at women like this and chalk it up to luck, privilege, or good genes. And sometimes, sure, those play a role. But more often than not, what you are interpreting as "luck" is actually a finely tuned operating system running in the background of her brain.

If you feel like you are constantly pushing a boulder uphill while others are taking an escalator, the problem isn’t your circumstances. It’s your mindset.

Welcome to the "Take My Advice Or Not" audit of your internal monologue. If you want to change your reality, you have to change the channel in your head first.

The "Waiting Room" Mentality

Most people live their lives in a mental waiting room. They are waiting for permission, waiting to feel "ready," waiting for someone to notice their hard work, waiting for the perfect partner to validate them.

This mindset vibrates at the frequency of lack. It screams to the universe, “I am not enough right now.”

The woman who "gets everything" doesn’t wait. She doesn’t ask for permission to take up space. She assumes that the space is hers until told otherwise—and even then, she probably just finds a different room.

The Audit: 3 Shifts to Stop Repelling Success

If you want to shift from passive waiting to active receiving, you need to audit your thoughts. It’s time to get uncomfortable.

1. The Vocabulary Audit (Stop Cursing Yourself)

Words have power. Your brain believes what you tell it. If you constantly say things like, "I'm so broke," "All the good men are taken," or "I could never wear that," your brain will work very hard to make those statements true.

The Shift: Catch yourself when you speak in absolutes about your limitations.

Instead of: "I can't afford that trip."
Try: "How can I create the budget for that trip?"

It seems small, but changing a statement into a question opens your brain to solutions instead of slamming the door in your own face.

2. The "Worthiness" Trap

Be honest: Do you secretly believe that having an easy, abundant life is "cheating"? Do you feel like you have to struggle for something to count?

Many of us were raised to believe that suffering is noble. It’s not. It’s just suffering.

The Shift: You have to internalize the idea that good things can happen easily, and that you deserve them simply because you exist, not because you suffered enough to earn them. The woman who gets everything believes she deserves everything. It’s not arrogance; it’s self-assurance. Start acting like you belong in the rooms you want to enter.

3. The Reaction to "No"

How you handle a closed door tells me everything about your mindset.

The average person hears "no" (to a job, a date, an opportunity) and internalizes it as a final judgment on their value. They spiral. They give up.

The mindset master hears "no" and interprets it as data. It just means "not this way, not right now."

The Shift: Stop taking rejection personally. A redirection is often a protection. When one door closes, the woman with the right mindset doesn't stand there banging on it; she immediately starts looking for a window.

The Final Truth

You have to be slightly delusional to level up. You have to believe in a version of yourself that doesn’t quite exist yet. You have to walk, talk, and dress like the woman who already has the things you want.

When your internal belief system changes, your external reality has no choice but to catch up. Stop waiting to get lucky, and start deciding that you already are.